All of us, without exception, will experience loneliness at some point in our lives. It’s those moments when we feel like we don’t belong anywhere, that we’re disconnected from others, even when we’re surrounded by many people.
It is those silences that make so much noise inside our minds, mainly because many of our fears are awakened.
But even though we will all experience loneliness at some point, many of us fear it.
The fear of loneliness is rooted in the deepest human need for connection and acceptance.
Ever since we begin to understand the world, we seek contact, connection, security.
When we distance ourselves from the feeling of connection, it often triggers anxiety, insecurity, and we even wonder if we are worthy.
If loneliness is not by choice, it can become quite harmful.
There are many psychological studies that show that loneliness is very often linked to depression, chronic stress, and low self-esteem.
People who feel lonely for long periods of time see themselves through a prism of rejection and failure.
These things are interconnected: The more alone they feel, the more isolated they become, and then of course reconnecting with others is even more difficult.
But loneliness is not always negative. There is also an aspect that we must admit, although we often overlook it. When loneliness is a choice, it becomes a space. It becomes a space to think, to rest, to process our feelings.
In moments of solitude, we can do and achieve the most important things. Make decisions, understand what we need, what we want from our lives, and something very basic: what we don’t want.
We can learn a lot from loneliness: which people suit us and which don’t. What we need to keep in our lives and what to let go of.
Loneliness can become the ground on which we can flourish and become calmer, more mature, more true.
So we shouldn’t avoid loneliness at all costs, but see the benefit. Accept it and learn to live with it creatively. Instead of feeling afraid, use it to become the best version of ourselves.
It is not loneliness that defines the quality of our lives, but how we experience that loneliness.
When we realize that loneliness is not a problem, but very often can become an opportunity, when we manage it wisely, then it can become one of the most powerful tools for personal development.
If you feel like loneliness is weighing you down or disorienting you, I am here to support you on your journey of reconnecting — with yourself, with others, with the life you deserve.
With trust and care,
Amalia